Ok List, Not Ok List

I actually found this really helpful:

I’ve discovered the secret to getting through this adding another human to your family thing. It’s as simple as making a list of things that are ok and not ok. When you start to feel overwhelmed and like you’re the worst mom ever, go to the list. Some of the things on my “this is ok” list : dirty laundry, unfolded laundry, unmade beds, tv as a babysitter, napping in the middle of the day, eating out, and the occasional shower cry. On my “not ok” list : saying negative things about myself, ignoring the boys to “get stuff done”, criticizing myself — especially my body, crying in the shower every day, not taking a shower, snapping at Zach simply because he’s there, and comparing myself to other moms. When things on my “not ok” list start happening, it’s usually because something on my “this is ok” list has moved into my “not ok” list and my emotional/mental state is suffering because of it.

[http://www.whenathome.com/this-is-ok/]