"Marriage requires a kind of death..."

"Marriage requires a kind of death. Though this is required for both husband and wife, the wife dies in a unique way. She takes a new name, and she has a new calling. This is what scares some women off, despite their desire for marriage and children."

"Marriage is a lot of work. It is a means to an end, not an end in itself. It is a means of glorifying God. Living with someone else, who is not at all like you, requires sacrifice. Bearing children requires tremendous sacrifice. Some women are quite happy by themselves, not having to take someone else into account in everything they do. So no matter how godly he is, a woman may shrink back from letting go. She knows that marriage means someone else will have the final say. That’s why it is of the utmost importance that a woman consider his character. If he is a godly man, and if she respects him highly, then she can trust God to lead her through him."

[http://www.feminagirls.com/2011/09/07/courtship-contradictions/]